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I might be moving to Montana, WHAT DO I DO?!
yo how do i get outta this depression funk? i got shit to do. aint go no time to be moping about and questioning if i have a purpose in life or if i really do want to do what ive spent two years of my life studying for
It’s still a work in progress but here’s a cool simple list I found to help clean your room that I’ve been using:
Hope this helps anyone!
🎵If you’re struggling to clean your room clap your hands 🎵
please🙏
⛔Stop a minute‼️
Get to know Hashem's family
My name is Hashem from Gaza. I am 32 years old and my wife, Samar, is 27 years old. We have a child born in the eighth month of pregnancy. His mother was premature because of my wife's fear of war. My large family consists of 8 members: my father, mother, four male brothers and 2 females. My father died in the war due to a lack of medicine in hospitals as a result of the fierce war on Gaza.
My story began when we were displaced from our home in northern Gaza in mid-October 2023 after a letter threatening eviction, and then the house was targeted and destroyed. Between this Exodus and the current fifth Exodus there are many stories and sufferings.
We now live in plastic tents, which are thermal ovens, which are not suitable for living and do not provide the minimum necessities of life, in addition to the spread of epidemics and diseases, which puts our lives in danger.
Through this campaign, we are trying to collect enough money to meet our needs and get us out of the Gaza Strip safely. We ask you to stand by us and protect us from this severe danger.
Support and share🤍
best wishes:
Hashem alshawish
Note:
The campaign was documented through:
@90-ghost
@gaza-evacuation-funds ( @el-shab-hussein @nabulsi )
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Home memories🥺
I always think of our home, which we left nine months ago. How sad he is without us. He became accustomed to us as we became accustomed to him. He witnessed our joys and sorrows, witnessed all the stages of our lives.
I felt as if my house were alive! For I believe that homes have souls just like us. Since we had to flee from our home, he has become alone. He does not hear our voices. He does not hear the sound of my key when I return from work late in the evening. He does not hear the voice of my wife while she works in her kitchen. He does not hear the soft snores of my children while they are asleep. He does not hear them play, the sound of our usual laughter is missing. He does not even hear our loud voices when we fight!
Now he is a pile of stones, and all he hears is the annoying noise of aircraft and continuous bombing. I always wonder about his condition. Does he miss us as much as we miss him? His loneliness hurts me, as does our distance from him...
Though I have my hope! As I progress in my campaign, I feel that I am getting closer to rebuilding my home and returning to him. I often imagine that we have returned home and saying "We have finally come back to our home! " He will once again be home to us, because I believe homes only die if their residents are absent! I don't want our house to die... Please help me return to him.
Note: The campaign was verified by @nabulsi , and its number is 219 in the campaigns file prepared by @el-shab-hussein.
farewell😭
Today is Friday 28-06-2024
Farewell to the mothers of martyrs in the Gaza Strip. As I write this post, massacres are taking place now in the area next to us, which is the Rafah highways, and the bodies are in the roads and ambulances cannot reach them. We are now in a state of displacement, danger is approaching us, and we do not have the basic necessities of life.
I hope you will look at us with compassion and humanity, and alleviate our suffering a little. Support and share our story on your page.
The campaign is documented by @nabulsi
WORK OUT: done
FOOD RULES: done
STRETCHING: done
SHOWER: done
STUDYING AND MEDITATING: nope
--- <1500 calories, <15k steps :c
⋆₊˚1/10/2024 – DAY 1 journal
I planned to go to sleep early, wake up at 5:30 am, work out early etc. but sadly I couldn't because i had to wait for my sister to come back from work (2 hours after i was supposed to go to sleep). So, I woke up at 7am and washed my hair and showered. It took a whole hour! After washing my hair, i worked out - today was pilates, i only did half tho. Yeah, I should work out before showering BUT i take a long time in the bathroom and others wanted to get ready too, so i had to be smart and shower earlier. I did only the first 30 minutes of pilates and then stretched, I did gua sha too! Few hours later we were in the church for 2 hours and went to visit the graves of our family members. Then we went to visit my grandpa (dad's side) and it was fun ngl, we were talking and i finally didnt spend much time on my phone - instead we talked, a lot! (I'm an extreme introvert) Then we went to my grandma (mom's side), she had cake but i didn't eat any of it because im on a no sugar diet. It didn't make me sad tho, I didn't crave sugar that much today. We talked a lot too, and i didnt even take my phone! I felt sooo pretty and i actually accepted that im fr attractive (I have body dysmorphia disorder). I got two strawberry chocolate bars from my grandma (dad's side) and some cake from my grandpa (mom's side). After we came back home, i did the other part of my pilates. Then i relaxed and played DTI, did my skincare and read some books. It's sleep time now💤
I'm not the past version of myself who didn’t rest,
I'm not okay and I need the help.
How Grounding Works:
Grounding techniques often use the five senses—sound, touch, smell, taste, and sight—to immediately connect you with the here and now. For example, singing a song, rubbing lotion on your hands, or sucking on some sour candy are all grounding techniques that produce sensations that are difficult to ignore or distract you from what’s going on in your mind.
This helps you directly and instantaneously connect with the present moment. At the same time, grounding reduces the likelihood that you will slip into a flashback or dissociation.
Grounding is highly personal. What may work for one person may trigger anxiety or flashbacks in another. You may need to do some trial and error before you figure out what grounding techniques work best for you. Pay attention to the coping mechanisms you’ve already developed to help you get through flashbacks and anxiety and see if you can build on them and/or use them as grounding techniques.
Grounding Techniques
To connect with the here and now, do something (or several things) that will bring all your attention to the present moment. Be sure to keep your eyes open while you’re grounding yourself so you’re aware of everything that’s going on around you.
If you notice that you’re slipping into a flashback or a dissociative state, try some of these grounding techniques.
Sight
Complete a crossword puzzle, sudoku, word search, or other puzzles.
Count all the pieces of furniture around you.
Play a distracting game on your tablet, computer, or smartphone.
Put on your favorite movie or TV show.
Read a book or magazine.
Take a mental inventory of everything around you, such as all the colors and patterns you see, the sounds you hear, and the scents you smell. Saying this out loud is helpful too.
Smell
Get some essential oils that remind you of good times (freshly cut grass, rain, clean laundry, or sugar cookies, for example) and smell one.
Light a scented candle or melt scented wax.
Sniff strong peppermint, which also has the benefit of having a soothing effect.3
Sound
Call a loved one.
Put on some nature sounds such as birds chirping or waves crashing.
Read out loud, whether it’s a favorite children’s book, a blog article, or the latest novel.
Talk out loud about what you see, hear, or what you’re thinking or doing.4
Turn up the radio or blast your favorite song.
Taste
Bite into a lemon or lime.
Let a piece of chocolate melt in your mouth, noticing how it tastes and feels as you roll it around with your tongue.
Suck on a mint or chew peppermint or cinnamon gum.
Take a bite of pepper or some hot salsa.
Touch
Cuddle and pet your dog or cat if you have one.
Drink a hot or cold beverage.
Grab an article of clothing, a blanket, or a towel and knead it in your hands or hold it to your cheek. Concentrate on what it feels like.
Hold an ice cube and let it melt in your hand.
Massage your temples.
Pop some bubble wrap.
Put your hands under running water.4
Rub your hand lightly over the carpet or a piece of furniture, noting the texture.
Take a hot or cool shower.
Other
Dance.
Go for a walk or run.
Send a letter or card to someone you care about.
Sit in another room or area for a change of scenery.
Stretch your arms, neck, and legs.
Take 10 slow, deep breaths.
Write in a journal about how you’re feeling or keep a list of prompts handy that you can use to decide what to write about.
Grounding Can Be Done Anywhere
The nice thing about using grounding as a coping technique is that many of these techniques can be done in any environment.5 You might be home alone or out in public, but once you feel that flashback or dissociation coming on, you can use grounding to move your focus back to the present.
Working on grounding takes dedication and it becomes easier over time. If these particular grounding techniques don’t work for you, try something else. For example, some people find that a rubber band on their wrist is useful to snap them back to the moment. The ultimate goal is to live in the now and focus on the present when the past starts coming up.
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Because we all need to hear this sometimes.
I’ve been having a bad couple of weeks and I just really needed to hear these:
You are NOT a burden
You are valued
You are NOT a shitty friend, even when you think you are
You don’t need to have it all figured out yet
It’s OK to have bad days
And it’s OK to hide from the world if you’re having a bad day
Because sometimes you just need to have some time to yourself
And that’s OK
You don’t have to do anything that you don’t want to
What happened to you in the past is NOT your fault
Don’t feel guilty for not being productive
It’s going to be OK
Breathe
Relax
Recharge
YOU ARE WANTED
YOU ARE LOVED
YOU CAN DO THIS
I BELIEVE IN YOU
Before and After💔
please help me and family 💔
We are from the Gaza Strip, which suffers from wars. I lived through 5 of these wars, and I lost my eyes and fingers hand , and my other eye was damaged. These were the previous wars until this 2023 war came and destroyed everything from my home and my workplace
HELP THEM!!!
Greetings to everybody. Could someone please aid me and my little girl with food funds? We have not had something to eat since yesterday afternoon. I am sorry for appearing poor, but aid is required. We don't have enough money to purchase food, so any amount that you can spare will help.
PayPal link 👇
Doing more than one? Choose whichever you found the most helpful. ❤️
“Don’t be the reason someone feels insecure. Be the reason someone feels seen, heard and supported.”
— Cleo Wade
#selfimprovement #thoughts #postivity #selfreminder #mentalhealth #growth #remindingmyself #bookblr
be addicted to real dopamine
be in the present and notice those little things you never saw before, but that have always been there
experience new exciting things that bring you joy
love people, listen to them and create meaningful connections
make art and don’t label it as “good” or “bad,” just let your soul be free
stop scrolling on social media and start turning pages of an interesting book
do mindfulness meditation and feel your body and mind calming down
move your body, no matter how as long as you’re enjoying
listen to music that matches the moment you’re in
eat nourishing food, feel your stomach full without discomfort
get a good night of sleep and feel yourself ready for another day
Regardless of your body type, regardless of your looks, the only thing that will ever make someone ugly. Is their personality.
If you are mean to people who are just trying to be nice? If you bully people for having interests? If you bully people for the things that bring them comfort? If you bring down someone just because of what they're wearing or their looks? If you start arguments and bully people for not having the same opinion as you? If you never try to respect boundaries or triggers? If you don't respect people's choices that are opposite to yours? You are the ugliest person I've ever seen. So ugly I don't even wanna look at you. So ugly I don't even want to be around you.
But if you are nice, back to the people that are nice to you? If you encourage those interests. If you willingly go out of your way to help someone who's clearly struggling? If you respect and understand the boundaries and triggers? If your kind to yourself and take care of yourself along with others? If you go out of your way to pick up trash on the ground? If your kind, regardless of how mean people are? If you respect people's opinions, even if they are opposite to your? If you respect people's choices, even if you don't fully understand them? God you're beautiful. You're so stunning and gorgeous that I can't stop looking at you.
Looks don't matter. They don't. You can match the "perfect beauty standards" and be the ugliest person I've ever seen. Or you can be "ugliest" person in terms of "beauty standards," and I would want to portrait of you just to look how beautiful you are.
But there are exceptions.
All body types are beautiful and gorgeous, but there is a point where it can be harmful. You can be so skinny, I can see your ribs & it wouldn't make me admire your diet or your figure but that would make me worry you aren't eating enough and not taking good care of yourself. You can be obese and overweight, and that would not make you ugly, no not at all, but it would make you unhealthy and sick. And it would make me worry if you're taking proper care of yourself. There's a balance.
The point of this post is that the beauty standards of today are messed up and twisted. And at some point, people need to realize that the things that make a person beautiful or not their looks. But their personality. And while people are right to point out that all body types are beautiful! There's a point where it becomes dangerous to yourself and unhealthy. And the world needs to realize that.
So please, if not for anyone else, please take care of yourself for me. Will you? I love you. I hope you have an awesome day.
I’ve been putting out the energy I want and not getting it. Now I’m going to just reflect the energy I get.
you when you get those question on like mental health positivity things where it's like, "make a list of people you trust" or "list all the things you like about yourself"
wtf do you actually write
people I trust: my mum? sometimes? maybe?
things i like about myself: my eyes, my...uh teeth???
like that just makes me seem more pathetic than i already am
"As dramatic as it sounds things like these were therapeutic for her. Repeating affirmations to herself, performing rituals before washing dishes ir studying, or writing inspirational quotes on sticky notes and sticking them on the wall to read them every morning. It's small unesescary details like those that maintain her ambitious and motivated state."
I'll always remember sweetness over pain it's light an love for me that remains
““It’s so hard to forget pain, but it’s even harder to remember sweetness. We have no scar to show for happiness. We learn so little from peace.” - Chuck Palahniuk”
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When your x was obsessed with BRATZ growing up
you happen to be a blonde named chloe 😁😂 ... probably her least favourite, clearly am now 😅🖤
how to live your life like the BRATZ ♡
self love & confidence!!
living life everyday with self-respect and self love will take you such a far way in all aspects of life, and will make your life more enjoyable and easy. make sure you take the time out of your day to remind yourself just how amazing and capable you are. be your own best friend. understand that what you focus on grows.
self care !!
you deserve to be treated with the upmost care. schedule times to pamper yourself and also check in with yourself.
taking care of your mind and body goes hand and hand.
for caring for your mind:
meditate, journal your thoughts down, do some yoga, connect to your religion/spirituality if you follow one, make affirmations for yourself that cater to your needs, practice gratitude.
for caring for your body:
create your own spa! indulge in a bubble bath or relaxing shower where you can use yummy scented body washes/soaps/exfoliators and body conditioners, do a hair mask, give yourself a manicure and pedicure, do your eyebrows, have a set skincare routine that is catered personally to your skin problems/goals, give yourself a head massage, wear matching or yummy scented lotions and perfumes, work out, try new delicious recipes and make sure you are eating good for your body.
hobbies !!
all of the girls had their own hobbies they were into! explore new hobbies or start the ones you’ve always been wanting to do but have been putting off! not only are they fun but they enhance your life! you get to learn more about yourself and find out possible hidden talents or grow new ones, you meet new people and make new friends too whether it’s you doing the actual hobby or running across someone who enjoys the same things that you do! some hobbies to consider:
any dance class: ballet, hip-hop, k-pop etc.
photography
any sport: tennis, ice skating, golfing, etc.
gardening
reading & writing
camping
crafting
blogging
cooking & baking
school and personal goals !!
one thing i love about the bratz is that they took their education seriously and helped each other whenever one of them needed the help. nothing is more fabulous than being educated and ambitious. you can do anything you put your mind to. 
create a study schedule for yourself and limit your distractions, when it’s time to study put your phone away and remove anything that you know will serve as a distraction to you, give yourself breaks from here and there too!
create a vision board! cut and paste pictures of things you want for your future onto a poster board or be creative and draw and color everything out! this is a great reminder everyday for yourself if you put it somewhere you’ll be able to see whenever you wake up or a spot in your room that you’re always looking at for example. (what you focus on grows!)
jot down all the things you want to do or improve on, whether thats creating good habits for yourself, learning a new language, etc.
have a passion for fashion !!
would this be a how to live your life like the BRATZ without it? explore and find your own fashion sense! find out what colors and patterns make you happy, express yourself through your clothing, shop until you drop and have fun!!
I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe.
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Distractions;
Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts.
-Draw something
-This website translates the time into colours.
-Create your own galaxy.
-Play flowing.
-Make a 3D line travel where ever you like.
-Listen to music.
-Calm.
-Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.
Sleep issues;
- 8 hour sleep music.
-Rainy mood.
-Meditation.
-Coping with nightmares.
-How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.
-Calm
-Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively.
Uncomfortable with silence;
-Rainy mood.
-10 hours of rain and thunder.
-3 hours of rain and thunder.
-Human heartbeat.
-Rainforest.
-Sound of rain on a tin roof.
-Autumn wind.
-Rain on a tent
-Traffic in the rain.
-Soft traffic.
-Fan.
-Train.
-Simply noise.
-My noise.
-Rainy cafe.
Anxiety;
-How to stop worrying.
-Tips to manage anxiety and stress.
-The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques.
-Self-help strategies for anxiety.
-Helping a friend with anxiety.
-All about worrying.
-8 myths about anxiety.
Sad, angry and depressed/depression;
-“I’m always sad”
-Feeling sad.
-Going through trauma.
-“I’m always angry”.
-Anger management.
-All about anger.
-National helplines and websites.
-Self-help strategies for depression.
-Dealing with depression at work.
-Dealing with depression at school.
Isolation and loneliness;
-Pets and mental health.
-All about loneliness.
-“I feel so alone”
-10 more ideas to help with loneliness.
-How to deal with loneliness.
Self-harm;
-Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.
-146 things to do besides self-harm.
-More alternatives to self-harm.
-Self-harm alternatives.
-How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.
-Getting rid of scars.
Addiction;
-How to help a friend with a drug addiction.
-What is addiction?
-All about alcohol and addiction.
-The facts about drug addiction.
Eating disorders;
-Helping a friend with an eating disorder.
-Eating disorder treatments.
-Support services for eating disorders.
-Self-help tips with eating disorders.
-Eating disorder recovery.
-Recovering from an eating disorder.
-100+ reasons to recover.
-Understanding and managing eating disorders.
Dealing with self-hatred;
-3 ways to ease self-loathing.
-How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.
-Self-hatred resources.
-10 step plan to deal with self-hate.
Suicidal;
-International suicide hotlines (1) (2)
-Preventing suicide.
-Reasons to stay alive.
-Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.
-Coping with suicidal ideation.
Schizophrenia;
-All about schizophrenia.
-Helping a person with schizophrenia.
-Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.
-Delusions and hallucinations.
OCD;
-Managing your OCD at home.
-Overcoming OCD.
-How to cope with OCD.
-Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments.
Borderline personality disorder;
-Helping someone with BPD.
-All about personality disorders.
-Treatment for BPD.
Abuse;
-Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships.
-Emotional abuse
-Overcoming sexual abuse.
-Hotlines services.
-5 ways to escape an abusive relationship.
-Domestic violence support.
-Signs of an abusive relationship.
-What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship.
-Surviving abuse.
-What you can do if you’re sexual harassed.
-Sexual assault support.
-What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused.
Bullying;
-How to stand up against bullying.
-How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.
-How to help stop people bullying you.
Loss and grief;
-How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.
-Grieving for a stranger.
-Common reactions to death.
-Working through grief.
(Other loss and grief)
-Moving away from friends and family.
-Coping with a breakup.
Getting help;
-Seeking help early.
-All about psychological treatments.
-Types of help.
-All about age and confidentiality.
Things you need to remember;
- Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.
-Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not.
- This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this.
-You are not alone.
-You are enough.
-You are important.
-You are worth it.
-You are strong.
-You are not a failure,
-Good people exist.
-Reaching out shows strength.
-Breathe.
-Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you.
-Give yourself credit.
-Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones.
-Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend.
-Focus on the things you can change.
-Let go of toxic people.
-You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do.
-Try not to beat yourself up.
-Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next.
-You are not a bother.
-Your existence is more than your appearance.
-You are smart.
-You are loved.
-You are wanted.
-You are needed.
-Better days are coming.
-Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright.
-You have more potential than you think.
- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x
Need a break?
Take a car drive
Look out the window
Take a walk in a forest
Tour a museum
Take a walk in the city
Listen to the radio
If you don’t have means to a therapist or mental health professional
Check out therapistaid.com. There’s worksheets there that you can download for free.
Of course it would be a lot more beneficial if you have a therapist to help you through it but not everyone has access to one.
It’s a free site where you can have free downloads of worksheets on many things.
If there’s something there that you think would be helpful, print it out and complete the worksheet on your own.
It’s hard to be accountable for yourself but at least there’s a way for you to have some insight and work on yourself.
The term "conscious" refers to the awareness and understanding of one’s own existence and feelings. I recognize that I can pursue and achieve my most passionate and seemingly unattainable dreams. It is essential to acknowledge this power within myself.
I often find myself puzzling over what the right choices are. I understand that human DNA grants us the capacity to make mistakes, allowing us time to reflect on what went wrong.
However, my mind tends to switch back and forth between fear and the overwhelming possibilities of scenarios in which I might feel eternally ashamed of myself.
In conclusion, I affirm that I am indeed a conscious individual.