Moving Out - Blog Posts

so I'll be getting news about maybe being able to move into a place specifically for autistic people and people with other mental illnesses. (beschermd wonen in dutch don't know the English term), which is supposed to help me deal with my autism and mental illness until I find a job and am able to be independent sknce my iq is avrage and so that I can move out of my transphobic mom's house^^

Rat: If it involves cutting back on the good ol' Winstons, I'm burning this place to the ground.

Bon. Demain je d'emménage. Je suis à la fois pressée, triste (je suis chez mes parents actuellement), stressée, contente... Bref, pas sûre d'avoir une nuit reposante 😅

C'est dur d'être adulte 😭

Me right now :

Fun fact: even moving out of an objectively harmful environment is scary. Change is scary. I can't really neatly define what I'm feeling as depression, but there's something that has me pausing before I enter my room because of just how empty it is. More and more my parents are getting used to the idea that I'll be gone; I guess I ensured that by picking up a house sitting job and staying weekends elsewhere so I could get to work on time, but still.

I get my new key on Thursday.

I'm excited to have freedom and be able to exist without having eggshells under my feet, but it's also so terrifying. I haven't been able to get out of bed on days I don't have work, just because there's no schedule, no one to enforce it. What am I supposed to do?

It'll all be OK, eventually, but right now it's a lot for me.

Here's to freedom, let's pour one out for childhood.

things i wish i had known when i escaped my family household and couldn't ask my parents for help

invest in a good mattress early on. there are many other ends you can save on - sleep is not one of them. this is key to how much energy you'll have throughout the day

you don't need a bedframe but you do need a slatted bed base (even if it's just pallets)

opening a bank account is easy

there's youtube tutorials for everything. how to install your washing machine, how to use tools, fixing stuff around the place. channels like dad, how do i? are a godsend

change energy provider as soon as your old deal runs out. you'll get better offers elsewhere and avoid price gouging

assemble a basic first aid kid at home: painkillers, probiotics, alcohol wipes, bandages, tweezers, antihistamine tablets - anything you might need in a pinch

and an emergency toolkit: flashlight, extra batteries, a utility knife, an adjustable wrench, multi-tool, duct tape

set your fridge to the lowest temperature it can go. the energy consumption is minimal in difference and it'll give you +4/7 days on most foods

off-brand products are almost always the same in quality and taste, if not better, for half the price

coupons will save you a lot of money in the long run

there's no reason to be shy around employees at the bank/laundromat/store; most people will be happy to help

vegetarian diets are generally cheap if you make food from scratch

breakfast is as important as they say

keep track of your budget in a notebook or excel file - e.g. rent, phone and internet bills, food, leisure so you'll have an overlook on your spending over the months

don't gamble

piracy is okay

stealing from big stores and chains is also ethically okay

keep medical bills and pharmacy receipts for tax returns

also, file your tax returns early

take up a hobby that isn't in front of a screen. pottery, music, going for a run every now and then, stuff that'll keep you busy and sane

and most importantly... you're allowed to get the stuff you want. treat yourself to the occasional mundane thing. a good scented candle. a bath bomb. that body lotion that makes you feel like royalty. the good coffee beans.

you're free and you deserve to be happy.

So I just found out my visa is expiring when I turn 23, and as a result I will be unable to stay in Germany. I’m trans and disabled and have no job, so I will need funds to support myself!!

I’ll be moving in with my grandparents in Louisiana, but I need the money to be independent, and also potentially enroll in the local colleges. Any amount helps. My commission info can be found at ko-fi, and i also have a plethora of adopts on toyhouse!

Please, if you cannot commission, signal boost in whatever way you can.

I’m free. I’ve wanted to be independent for at least 14 years.

Wait, now what?

On moving out

We are all still here together

The sound of my brother’s guitar still creeps into my room long after his 11pm curfew

Next year those fugitive notes will wind themselves furtively through other walls

This summer though, everyone’s shoes still sit on the shoe rack

The key hooks are full

We still buy sultana bran and jatz crackers and his brand of shaving cream when we go shopping

This summer feels like a full moon

Whole and round, like a cake nobody has cut into

Yet

It’s candles are flickering brightly

But I can hear the first chords of happy birthday

He will come back, of course.

But will he have grown while I’m not looking?

A tree falling in a forest full of people other people I don’t know

Schroedinger’s little brother

What will I no longer know about him

This bright creature, eagerly unfurling from his chrysalis while I still find myself wriggling, fuzzy and green

Curly headed rogue

I will send all of my nicest things with you

Pistachio cake and dandelion wishes and that warm staticky feeling when you get the harmony just right

Recount your adventures to me when you get home

Who knows? Maybe when you return I will have grown too

and we will show each other our new colours

need to take my heart out and give it a little rinse under cold water

i’m moving out (from college) this saturday and keep putting packing off because it stresses me the fuck out and like i don’t want to go home but also i kinda do. change makes me feel untethered as fuck and packing makes me anxious. might have to reread aftg again to be able to stay sane throughout this

finally moving into an apartment !!!

so, a few years ago, i realized just how bad my home life really was. i ended up moving in with another relative, but recently things fell through and i had to move back in with my monster mother. but, i am finally moving out and getting my own place! i'm going to be able to attend pride events for the first time! i'm going to be able to celebrate the holidays for my religion! i'm finally going to be free of the judgment and abuse i've dealt with my entire life. i am free. or at least, i will be in six days